If you want to feel better about yourself, maybe you should stop making comparisons with everyone else.
There are about seven billion people on this planet today. The sad – but also liberating – truth is that some of them are better-looking, more intelligent, and more talented than you. Whatever it is you think you’re good at, there’s almost certainly someone out there who is better at it.
“Hang on,” I hear you crying, as you splutter on your tea. “I thought this was supposed to make me feel good about myself.”
And so it should. Because once you realise that making comparisons is a loser’s game you can stop doing it. You don’t need to be better than anyone else, just the best version of yourself that you can manage.
Take a look in the mirror. What you see in there is you, and it’s all you’ve got to work with. So don’t compare it unfavourably with some media-created image of the perfect human being. Find the things about yourself that you really like – if you’ve been reading this blog there must be some by now. Maybe you have nice eyes, or good skin or lovely thick hair. Pay yourself a compliment instead of comparing yourself with your friend who seems to have it all.
Remember there’s a lot more to you than the outside. Think of all your positive qualities – are you kind, thoughtful, funny? What do your friends and family love about you? Celebrate those things instead of worrying about your perfect sibling.
And so what if lots of people are better at chess, baking, abseiling or whatever your particular interest might be. You’re better than you were when you started – look at your own personal progress instead of regretting that you’re not a world champion.
Be the best you can. Do the best you can. And be proud of yourself and your efforts.