Earlier this year, I posted a series of little videos on my Facebook page giving tips on how to raise your self-esteem. I’ve also uploaded them to YouTube so you can catch up with any you missed/want to see again. They were so well-received that I thought it might be a good idea to go into the subject a bit more deeply in blog posts. So starting next week I’m going to publish a post each week exploring one of these tips. I won’t be repeating what I’ve said in the videos word for word – that wouldn’t be worth your time. Instead I’ll be giving you a bit more detail about the things I say in the videos. I might include some real life examples and the I’ll try to word the whole thing a bit more elegantly.
Before we start, I just want to clarify one thing. I don’t want to come across as some kind of mad-eyed positive-thinking guru. I’m not suggesting for one minute that everything will be fine if you never allow yourself a negative thought. Life isn’t like that, and trying to pretend it is will just give you another thing to feel bad about. Either you’ll notice negative thoughts starting to creep in so you’ll call yourself a failure for not being able to keep them out. Or possibly even worse, you’ll keep the negative thoughts at bay but things will still go wrong. So you’ll think you were being negative all along but were too stupid to notice.
What I’m suggesting is that you accept that things will go wrong but that doesn’t mean your whole life’s a disaster. You will make mistakes but that doesn’t mean you’re rubbish. You will fail but that doesn’t make you a failure.
So watch this space and together we can work on your self-esteem. You can learn to stop putting yourself down and start to recognise your own worth. And then, perhaps, you’ll fly.