We all have a mantra. It doesn’t have to be an arcane Sanskrit word that we’re not sure we’re pronouncing correctly. It’s far more likely to be that repeated thought playing silently in our heads. And all too often it’s negative.
I’m too fat.
Everyone else is better than me.
Nobody likes me.
But once you become aware of your personal mantra you can change it. You can switch that negative message off and replace it with something more positive. And when you do that it can have a huge impact on your life.
How to change your mantra
If you want to change your mantra, the first step is to identify the one you’re currently working with. So take a bit of time to hear what your inner voice is saying to you. Note that I said hear, not listen. If there’s a negative message playing in your head you just want to identify it, not take it on board.
Once you’ve identified your negative mantra you’re in a better position to replace it with a more positive one. Because once you’re aware of the negative thoughts you have about yourself you can identify the effect they’re having on you. Then you can better identify the kind of positive thoughts you need in order to reverse them.
So if your mantra is I’m too fat you can replace it with I’m working to reach my ideal weight. Or you might look at yourself coolly and realise you’re happy with your weight, in which case you could choose I’m fine just the way I am.
If your mantra is Everyone else is better than me you could perhaps identify something you’re good at and base your new mantra on that. Or you could recognise that we all have good and bad qualities and simply opt out of competition – I’m as good as anyone else.
And if that little voice in your head is saying Nobody likes me you could think of someone who you know does like you and replace “nobody” with their name. Or more helpfully, start by appreciating yourself – I love and accept myself – and start to notice how positively other people respond to you.
So just try it – change your mantra to change your mind.