I set up my website about nine months ago and at the time I was quite pleased with it. However, it doesn’t hurt to get an outside opinion so I recently had it reviewed by a lady called Sarah Baker. Sarah is a working mum, a therapy business coach and all-round lovely person. Although that’s not what I called her when I first saw her review!
Just kidding – as she herself said, her comments and criticisms were made in a spirit of loving support, and I had to admit she was right about a lot of things.
As a result, you’re likely to see a lot of changes to the site over the next few weeks. It’s going to be much more personal, almost like you and me sitting and having a chat over a coffee. With biscuits. I want you to get a better idea of who I am, what I can help you with, and how much better I can make you feel about yourself.
I’ll try to answer all your questions about what it’s like to work with me. My aim is that by the time you decide to book some sessions you’ll feel like you know me. That way you won’t feel nervous or apprehensive and we’ll already be starting to build up a good relationship.
But if you have any questions you want to ask before you pick up the phone to talk to me, feel free to email me. You can either use the “Contact Me” button on the site or email me direct at firstname.lastname@example.org. We can also arrange sessions by email if you’re a bit shy about phoning me.
In the future I’m planning to set up online booking to make things even easier for you but I’m no tech whizz-kid so that might take a while! In the meantime, keep popping back to keep an eye on the changes. And don’t miss my freebie that will be coming soon.
The website is about to get wicked!
It’s all very well me telling you about my qualifications and how wonderful I am. That’s true by the way – I really am. But what you really want to know is how hypnotherapy can help you. And when I’m talking about this, it isn’t necessarily a sales pitch for me – I’m not just pushing my services. I want you to really understand why you might benefit from seeing a hypnotherapist.
Basically, if you feel like you’re stuck in some aspect of your life, hypnotherapy could help you. I like working with people who have problems with confidence or self-esteem, but hypnotherapy can help with much more.
So maybe you’re stuck trying to cope with depression or anxiety, feeling like life’s just too hard. Hypnotherapy can help you to move on and start to enjoy living again.
Perhaps you’re stuck with a bad habit – maybe smoking or drinking too much or biting your nails. If you really want to change that and feel better about yourself, hypnotherapy can help you.
If you’re stuck with chronic pain from fibromyalgia, or chronic fatigue syndrome, or maybe from an old injury – hypnotherapy can help you.
And if you’re stuck weighing a couple of stone more than you know you should, sick of yoyo dieting and being told what you can and can’t eat, hypnotherapy can help you find a new way to manage your weight, a way that seems effortless because it works by changing you, not by forcing you to constantly watch what goes in your mouth.
Hypnotherapy can help you to get out of that place where it feels like you’ve been stuck for ever. It can gently move you in the right direction so you can end up where you really want to be.
So if you feel stuck and you want to move on, do yourself a favour. Have a look on the internet for hypnotherapists in your area and give one of them a call. It could make all the difference.
Before you put your trust in a hypnotherapist you need to be confident that the person you’ve chosen is appropriately trained and qualified. So how do you check a hypnotherapist’s qualifications?
Unfortunately, it’s not as easy as it may appear. In common with the majority of alternative and complementary therapies, there is no official regulation of hypnotherapy. Legally, anyone can set themselves up as a hypnotherapist. All they need to do is take a short online course or read a book. They could even just copy their own experience of therapy.
But that doesn’t mean you have to trust entirely to luck. There is no official register of hypnotherapists, but there are a several voluntary registers. You can read about them here. The membership criteria for these varies, but they all have the general aim of improving training and professional practice among hypnotherapists. They lay down standards for initial training, continuous professional development and supervision. All their members have to abide by these standards.
I am a member of the General Hypnotherapy Register (GHR) and am also registered with the Complementary and Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC). This is a voluntary body which the government set up to ensure standards among complementary health practitioners. I believe this offers potential clients the reassurance they need.
However, I know some excellent therapists who don’t feel the need to register with any external body. This does not mean that they are not qualified. The important thing when considering using an unregistered therapist is to look at their qualifications and the training body that issued them. Initial practitioner training in hypnotherapy should always involve a high level of face to face tuition. Qualified hypnotherapists can then learn specialised techniques and approaches by distance learning if necessary. This is particularly easy now that the internet allows students to interact with their tutors and each other. I studied at Motivation Training in the Scottish Highlands but there are many other excellent training providers and you can easily check your potential therapist’s provider online.
I call it the chicken question. It’s nearly always there in new clients’ minds and I’m not the only one who has to deal with it. I have a friend who practises as a hypnotherapist on the South coast. Stage hypnosis shows are very popular in his area. He experiences a lot of resistance to hypnotherapy from people who have seen them. They genuinely believe that a hypnotherapist will make them cluck like a chicken. Or bark like a dog. Or even burst into song in the middle of Waitrose (I told you he lives on the South coast).
A hypnotherapist will not make you do any of these things. A hypnotherapist cannot make you do any of these things. No-one can make you do anything under hypnosis that you don’t want to do. Read that sentence again – it really does bear repeating. And if you haven’t inwardly digested it then read it one more time.
Stage hypnotists have developed the skill to very cleverly identify those audience members who are happy to make an exhibition of themselves. Under the influence of hypnosis they can easily persuade these people to act the fool for the entertainment of others. They go to see the show in the full knowledge that volunteers will go up on stage and do odd things. Then they volunteer – the hypnotist isn’t going to have a lot of difficulty getting them to bark or cluck or quack.
Hypnotherapists, on the other hand, are skilled at using the hypnotic trance state to help our clients to bring about changes that they desire. We help people who are stuck in some way to change their behaviour and move on. By doing this we help people to build confidence, to change unwanted habits or to handle unpleasant feelings. We aim to make people’s lives better. To do anything else would be morally and ethically unacceptable.
So no – I will NOT make you do anything you don’t want to do. I will not make you cluck like a chicken. Even if you ask me to!