Why do so many of us beat ourselves up over the fact that we’re not perfect? And allied to that, why are we so hung up on winning?
Books, magazines and TV advertising all sell us the dream of the perfect body, the perfect home, the perfect life. But no-one actually has those things. Or if they do, they don’t believe it.
No-one is perfect. Not you, not me, not (insert the name of the most beautiful, talented gifted person you can think of here). That supermodel you admire so much probably has all sorts of secret hang-ups about her looks. The multi-billionaire investor with the private jet and homes around the world worries about smelly feet and an outbreak of middle-age acne. Rock stars who fill huge arenas with screaming fans are obsessed with their weight.
The quest for perfection is paralysing. We’re so desperate to get everything right that either we don’t bother starting or we unconsciously sabotage our own efforts. How often has it been so important for you to do something well that nerves took over and you messed it up?
Just relax. Do your best, be your best and accept that it’s good enough. When you stop looking for perfection you start to see what you really want to change and how you can achieve it.
If you need to be two stones lighter to achieve a healthy weight, make a plan for how to get those two stones off. Don’t decide you’re going to slim down until you’re stick thin – you’re asking too much of yourself and setting yourself up to fail.
If you think you need to get fitter, start off with a leisurely jog, and congratulate yourself for achieving it. Don’t go straight into training for a marathon.
And remember, in any field of endeavour, you don’t have to be the best. Put in the effort that you think something deserves, then congratulate yourself, whatever the result.
You are good enough. You will always be good enough. Say no to perfection and start to value yourself.